A crazy three months

So...it's been a while since I've updated this blog...it's been a pretty busy season. We both started new jobs that have kept us more-than-occupied, we've been exploring New England, and there have been some conferences, etc. Sorry.

We've also probably been purposefully avoiding looking at other blogs, and hence have forgotten about our own. We were waiting until our insurance kicked in on November 1st, and it was just too difficult to watch other's getting pregnant, etc. while we were waiting for a chance to try again.

We went to the doctor the beginning of November, and were informed that our lovely insurance would not cover us until we had paid for 6 IUI's out of pocket at the doctor's office (I guess the one's I did at home didn't count). So we technically have to do four more before they will pay a dime. If we had known this, we wouldn't have waited three blasted months! But alas...onward and upward.

Our first appointment with the new RE was horrible. She had double-booked us after already calling a week earlier to reschedule us. Then they said they had an appointment the same day, a few hours later, so we both moved around our appointments to make this appointment (otherwise we would have had to wait another month to get in)...and then the doctor was 1/2 hour late to this appointment. She had obviously not bothered to read the chart, because she asked me if I was KB's "friend or cousin...or...????" KB became pretty upset at this, and not-so-gently informed her that I was her wife...which the doctor brushed aside...no apologies for being late or for making stupid assumptions.

We thought in Massachusetts we wouldn't have to deal with people being ignorant about same-sex marriage...and I guess now we are realizing that only close to Boston are people more progressive. Also, it might be just me, but fertility specialists in general should probably be more sensitive to the idea that their patients might not be straight since many lesbians require the assistance of RE's to become pregnant...I'm just saying...

So now we are on Tamoxifen. No more clomid for us. It thinned out KB's lining too much. We had three mature follicles (which is about half of what we typically had when on clomid, but still quite good). Her lining was within normal limits...and now we are 7dpo. We had to inseminate on Thanksgiving, with a different doctor (who is the head of the department and so much better interpersonally)...so if this doesn't work out this month...we are switching doctors to her as well.

The other strange thing that has happened that I am totally reading into (because really everything can be a pregnancy sign, can't it?) is that KB had weird nasal congestion for about three days from 4dpo to 6dpo. It was like a cold...but she wasn't extra tired and didn't have any other symptoms. No relief if she took an allergy pill...and not the typical nasal mucous for a cold...it was clear...
I've (of course) been reading about "early pregnancy signs and cold symptoms" on various ttc sites...which you would think that a year later I would be learning my lesson on this...and this phenomenon has been reported as a fluke sign of early pregnancy. so of course...despite how much I am trying to ignore it...I'm freaking out a little in my head. But much less than in past months.

7 days to go. Let's hope this works...for both us and our bank account.